Survival, especially in these difficult times, has to count as some sort of an achievement. It’s not something that comes easily … But, having done that much, you’re left with the problem of giving it some purpose. After all, what good is health and security if your life has no meaning?
From The Pale Criminal by Philip Kerr (British novelist 1956–2018)
“I would rather be ashes than dust! I would rather my sparks should burn out in a blaze than they should be stifled by dry rot. I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than asleep and permanent as a planet. The proper function of man is to live, not to exist. I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them. I shall use my time.”
— Jack London
There are attitudes that are not suitable for us as we get older; being a pessimist fits into that category. It takes courage to face the ageing process and to have a positive mindset, whatever the outcome, means that at the very least you enjoyed the ride!
The war time prime minister Winston Churchill noted that a pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty
I recently read an article in Candis magazine, the August issue P 37, ‘When it’s OK to Choose Pessimism’ the article speaks of defensive pessimism – a way of thinking that looks at the worst possible outcome, then, optimistically prepares to prevent it. That sounds remarkably like our journey into possible retirement or the way we view the as yet unknown future!
Worry is so draining especially when there isn’t a reality to fix the worry onto. Concerns about ill health, our own or of our nearest and dearest, can sap the energy out of the day/month/year/future. ‘Defensive pessimism’ might just be a useful tool in your SuperAger kit. I would be interested in your thoughts.
Meanwhile have a good day. Love Angela
A quote on page 30 of the September issue of Woman Alive:
Life begins at 60 Angela Lucas, now 85, has five adult children and 11 grandchildren, and has spent the last 25 years challenging herself to do new things.
I feel very honoured to have my adventures and my book How to be a SuperAger take up a page of the September issue of the magazine Woman Alive. Thank you to the editor Jackie Harris. You can find the magazine details at Woman Alive.co.uk Order your own copy. And you can order my book How to be a SuperAger from Amazon – happy reading!
Have a good week!
“Life is always opening new and unexpected things to us. There is no monotony in living to him who walks even the quietest and tamest path with open and perceiving eyes. The monotony of life, if life is monotonous to you, is in you, not in the world.”
— Phillip Brooks
Just a few weeks into dreaming about cycling part of the Camino de Santiago reality dawned and I knew it wasn’t going to happen.
SO I chose to be an encourager for other peoples possibilities. My Camino hiking gear went to my granddaughter who is having an African adventure and my bike is with my daughter who plans to cycle to work.
The Tamoxifen hormone blocker, while being a blessing as an insurance against possible reoccurrence of breast cancer, also has unwanted side effects; among these are lethargy and lack of motivation and I have to draw on alternative ways of functioning, of encouraging myself to be a healthy and active participant in this great thing called life.
Being an encourager takes me out of myself into a focus on other peoples endeavours. A privilege has been working alongside a hospice chaplin as she writes her autobiography. Sitting alongside her, proof reading, editing and drinking coffee warms my inner being with a sense of purpose.
My book, How to be a SuperAger, is going to be featured in the September issue of the women’s magazine Woman Alive. You can order your copy direct via their website. Happy reading!
Just a thought from a Henry Ford quote: Anyone who stops learning is old whether at 20 or 80…the greatest thing in life is to keep your mind young.
If you have followed my blog you will know that almost a year ago my home was decimated by a fire which began next door. Just 6 weeks to go then my rebuilt home will be ready to move back.
This should be, and is, exciting. Problem is the prospect of all the upheaval is rather daunting and comes at a time when my breast cancer treatment, tamoxifen, is living up to its reputation for wearing side effects.
SO! I have two schemes in place; the first is an imaginary box which accompanies me everywhere. When an unwanted side effect is being a difficulty I talk to myself “I, Angela, am fine. Its the Tamoxifen” and in my imagination the side effect is put into the box, hopefully not to reappear for a while.
Imagination is a wonderful and powerful tool. Just to convince myself that I, Angela, is alright I have a plan ….I am working towards the possibility of cycling the final 100 miles of the ancient pilgrimage route, the Camino de Santiago. This will be to celebrate being 86. For my 82 birthday my daughter and I hiked the same route
So, watch this space! #SuperAger